Tag: Change
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The Happier Holidays
Recently someone asked me if I am going to do my typical series of posts on grief and the holidays. No. I’m not. The truth is I am tired of grief. I have been posting about grief and the holidays and grief and birthdays and grief and anniversaries and grief in general for over 10…
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My Personal Strategies for Moving Through Sadness, Change, and Hard Life Places
My post today from my personal Facebook page… In the last few days I’ve had multiple conversations about depression and grief, and I thought I would share some of my “wisdom” here, too. First, when my husband moved out, mom died, husband died, stepfather blamed me for Mom’s death, brother went into a deep depression,…
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What is Your Name: Who Has the Right to Decide
Last week I finished the series on Family Predators and left Friday hanging with a post asking, “What is Your Name?” In that post I said, “Your name isn’t what people call you. Your name is what you live into. What is your name?” In that moment I was thinking of my name and the…
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What is Your Name?
That is what I heard in the early hours this morning when I rolled over in my bed. I had fallen asleep praying about what to write today since I finished the series on family predators, and I would really like to write about something uplifting and not so heavy. I awoke at one point…
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Family Predators: What You Can Do, Part 8
Throughout my series on Family Predators, I’ve talked about family predator culture and its impact on one’s personal life. In today’s final post of the series, I want to look beyond survival and escaping to changing the story. In previous posts I said I stopped enabling family predator culture in my life by confronting my…
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Family Predators: It Stops with You, Series Part 6
In part four of this series, Family Predators, I talked about why it is hard it is to walk away from family predator culture. However, I know quite a few people who have done it, including myself, and with my friends’ permission, I would like to share why and how we walked away. For a…
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Family Predators: Why It is Hard to Just Walk Away, Series Part 4
I think it is really important to understand why it is so hard to walk away from families who protect predators and have a culture of abuse and perversion, not just to explain it to people who have never been in a family that protected predators but for those who have. I have spoken with…
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Family Predators: And then What?, Series Part 3
Yesterday I posted about my experience with a family predator and how it made me an easy target later in life. I’ve been asked what happened to the uncle and to the coach. “So what happened to the uncle and coach?” I didn’t sleep with the coach. He moved away, and I have no idea…
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Family Predators Create Easy Targets: My Story, Series Part 2
When I was growing up, there was an uncle that made comments on my body. When I started to go through puberty, he often remarked on how much I had “filled out” since the last time I saw him. He made said things like I’d need a bigger bra if I kept growing at this…
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The Crash and How to Handle It
Earlier today I was talking to a friend about the day to day life of following Christ and how one day we can be on a mountain top and the next day we are scraping the bottom of the barrel. I laughed and said, “Who needs a whole day? I can be praising Jesus at…
