Identity
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Only You Can Do It
Can we talk?You know, the kind of talk where some of you are really not going to like me afterward, but if you listen, it’ll change your life?Because I had this talk with myself, and it changed my life kind of talk? You are responsible for how you see yourself.You are responsible for whether you…
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Fitting

I was getting ready for lunch with a friend. When I looked through my clothes to find something to wear, I realized none of them fit me anymore. Not like they are the wrong size, although some are, but they don’t fit ME. They fit who I have been for years. The casual, blend into…
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Defined by God, Not Humans
Yesterday on my Facebook page I shared a meme about the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional or abusive home on the ability to make decisions, even small ones. With that meme, I also shared two things I have personally used to overcome decision paralysis because it is a very common struggle for folks.…
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What is Your Name: Who Has the Right to Decide
Last week I finished the series on Family Predators and left Friday hanging with a post asking, “What is Your Name?” In that post I said, “Your name isn’t what people call you. Your name is what you live into. What is your name?” In that moment I was thinking of my name and the…
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What is Your Name?
That is what I heard in the early hours this morning when I rolled over in my bed. I had fallen asleep praying about what to write today since I finished the series on family predators, and I would really like to write about something uplifting and not so heavy. I awoke at one point…
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Family Predators Create Easy Targets: My Story, Series Part 2
When I was growing up, there was an uncle that made comments on my body. When I started to go through puberty, he often remarked on how much I had “filled out” since the last time I saw him. He made said things like I’d need a bigger bra if I kept growing at this…
