Category: Standing up to Family Sickness
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Defined by God, Not Humans
Yesterday on my Facebook page I shared a meme about the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional or abusive home on the ability to make decisions, even small ones. With that meme, I also shared two things I have personally used to overcome decision paralysis because it is a very common struggle for folks.…
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What is Your Name: Who Has the Right to Decide
Last week I finished the series on Family Predators and left Friday hanging with a post asking, “What is Your Name?” In that post I said, “Your name isn’t what people call you. Your name is what you live into. What is your name?” In that moment I was thinking of my name and the…
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Family Predators: What You Can Do, Part 8
Throughout my series on Family Predators, I’ve talked about family predator culture and its impact on one’s personal life. In today’s final post of the series, I want to look beyond survival and escaping to changing the story. In previous posts I said I stopped enabling family predator culture in my life by confronting my…
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Family Predators: Things I Want You to Know, Part 7
For more than a week I have been discussing the family predator culture, how it continues, how to heal, why people leave. I have shared part of my story and other people’s stories, but today I want to talk about your story. If you are a victim of the predator victim culture, there are things…
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Family Predators: It Stops with You, Series Part 6
In part four of this series, Family Predators, I talked about why it is hard it is to walk away from family predator culture. However, I know quite a few people who have done it, including myself, and with my friends’ permission, I would like to share why and how we walked away. For a…
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Family Predators: How Did You Heal?, Series Part 5
I have considered not writing this because I don’t want to oversimplify this subject. I have written from my experience, and I know others who have hell stories because of their family’s predators–yes, sometimes more than one–and their family protecting those predators. I want to respect their stories and their healing journeys which are more…
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Family Predators: Why It is Hard to Just Walk Away, Series Part 4
I think it is really important to understand why it is so hard to walk away from families who protect predators and have a culture of abuse and perversion, not just to explain it to people who have never been in a family that protected predators but for those who have. I have spoken with…
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Family Predators: And then What?, Series Part 3
Yesterday I posted about my experience with a family predator and how it made me an easy target later in life. I’ve been asked what happened to the uncle and to the coach. “So what happened to the uncle and coach?” I didn’t sleep with the coach. He moved away, and I have no idea…
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Family Predators Create Easy Targets: My Story, Series Part 2
When I was growing up, there was an uncle that made comments on my body. When I started to go through puberty, he often remarked on how much I had “filled out” since the last time I saw him. He made said things like I’d need a bigger bra if I kept growing at this…
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Stopping Family Predators, part 1
If you want to stop sexual abuse against children, start in your families. I am not talking about stranger danger. I mean start with the predators in your own family. You know the ones I’m talking about. The uncle no one wants to be around.The grandfather that girls try to avoid.The cousin that gives a lot…
Jerri Kelley 