Category: Restoring Identity
-
Not All Fear is the Same
If you are doing something to change your life, fulfill a dream, or learn something new, and you feel scared, feel the fear and keep going.Being scared means you’re doing something outside your comfort zone.It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it.It means it is different.You need to know the difference because one keeps you safe.The…
-
Being Intentional about Mental Health
Lately I’ve talked to a lot of people who are battling anxiety and depression, who are feeling hopeless, who have a solid level of self-loathing going on, and all of them tell me how this and that the other is the problem. The fact is for all of them, they are their own biggest problem.…
-
Fitting

I was getting ready for lunch with a friend. When I looked through my clothes to find something to wear, I realized none of them fit me anymore. Not like they are the wrong size, although some are, but they don’t fit ME. They fit who I have been for years. The casual, blend into…
-
The Beautiful Diversity of Roses
Tomorrow is Valentine’s, and wow, it can be brutal, especially if you are single. That feeling of not being chosen can shatter your already fragile sense of value. It can spur questions and emotions about not being enough and what is wrong with you and why can’t you be like the girl who has all…
-
Pleasing Words and Thoughts
A friend of mine and I share verses each morning and share our thoughts on them and how we see them apply to our lives. This morning he shared Psalm 19:14: Let the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be acceptable in they sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer.…
-
I Beginning Again…Again…Or Am I?
Do you ever feel that way? Like you are beginning again…for the kazillionth time? My mathematical brain describes it as: (Beginning again) to the Nth degree. I admit I tend to find that thought deflating and often defeating. I mean, I’ve tried this, whatever “this” is, before…several times…and failed. What in the world makes me…
-
Defined by God, Not Humans
Yesterday on my Facebook page I shared a meme about the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional or abusive home on the ability to make decisions, even small ones. With that meme, I also shared two things I have personally used to overcome decision paralysis because it is a very common struggle for folks.…
-
Strategic Chaos
God will put us in blessed places.That doesn’t mean they are always easy.Sometimes a blessed place is a hard place or a chaotic place.It also doesn’t mean blessed places are for us to get something that feels good to us.It means there is something about us that needs to be put into that messy situation…
-
My Personal Strategies for Moving Through Sadness, Change, and Hard Life Places
My post today from my personal Facebook page… In the last few days I’ve had multiple conversations about depression and grief, and I thought I would share some of my “wisdom” here, too. First, when my husband moved out, mom died, husband died, stepfather blamed me for Mom’s death, brother went into a deep depression,…
-
What is Your Name: Who Has the Right to Decide
Last week I finished the series on Family Predators and left Friday hanging with a post asking, “What is Your Name?” In that post I said, “Your name isn’t what people call you. Your name is what you live into. What is your name?” In that moment I was thinking of my name and the…
