Yesterday on my Facebook page I shared a meme about the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional or abusive home on the ability to make decisions, even small ones. With that meme, I also shared two things I have personally used to overcome decision paralysis because it is a very common struggle for folks. …
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Really, the Holidays are Happy
I have considered deleting my post from yesterday about the holidays and being tired of grief because, once again, I evidently didn't communicate well. The point that I was trying to make is that holidays for a lot of people come with all the emotions, and I know people who are stuck in their grief …
The Happier Holidays
Recently someone asked me if I am going to do my typical series of posts on grief and the holidays. No. I'm not. The truth is I am tired of grief. I have been posting about grief and the holidays and grief and birthdays and grief and anniversaries and grief in general for over 10 …
My Personal Strategies for Moving Through Sadness, Change, and Hard Life Places
Venus McFly fascinates me. My post today from my personal Facebook page... In the last few days I've had multiple conversations about depression and grief, and I thought I would share some of my "wisdom" here, too. First, when my husband moved out, mom died, husband died, stepfather blamed me for Mom's death, brother went …
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Being the Prevention for Suicide
We know the number one predictor of suicide is isolation. That could be physical isolation such as someone is alone most of the time due to physical limits, due to mental or emotional limits, or due to choice. It could be mental emotional isolation such as feeling like no one cares about you, that the …
What is Your Name?
That is what I heard in the early hours this morning when I rolled over in my bed. I had fallen asleep praying about what to write today since I finished the series on family predators, and I would really like to write about something uplifting and not so heavy. I awoke at one point …
Family Predators: Things I Want You to Know, Part 7
For more than a week I have been discussing the family predator culture, how it continues, how to heal, why people leave. I have shared part of my story and other people's stories, but today I want to talk about your story. If you are a victim of the predator victim culture, there are things …
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Family Predators: It Stops with You, Series Part 6
In part four of this series, Family Predators, I talked about why it is hard it is to walk away from family predator culture. However, I know quite a few people who have done it, including myself, and with my friends' permission, I would like to share why and how we walked away. For a …
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Family Predators: How Did You Heal?, Series Part 5
I have considered not writing this because I don't want to oversimplify this subject. I have written from my experience, and I know others who have hell stories because of their family's predators--yes, sometimes more than one--and their family protecting those predators. I want to respect their stories and their healing journeys which are more …
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Family Predators: Why It is Hard to Just Walk Away, Series Part 4
I think it is really important to understand why it is so hard to walk away from families who protect predators and have a culture of abuse and perversion, not just to explain it to people who have never been in a family that protected predators but for those who have. I have spoken with …
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