I talk about grief fairly regularly. Not as much as I used to because I feel like I keep saying the same things and people don't need to hear them again, AND I really prefer joy. LOL But I talk about grief because when my kids and I went through our massive life change in …
Category: Mental Health
The Beautiful Diversity of Roses
Tomorrow is Valentine's, and wow, it can be brutal, especially if you are single. That feeling of not being chosen can shatter your already fragile sense of value. It can spur questions and emotions about not being enough and what is wrong with you and why can't you be like the girl who has all …
I Beginning Again…Again…Or Am I?
Do you ever feel that way? Like you are beginning again...for the kazillionth time? My mathematical brain describes it as: (Beginning again) to the Nth degree. I admit I tend to find that thought deflating and often defeating. I mean, I've tried this, whatever "this" is, before...several times...and failed. What in the world makes me …
What You See Changes Things
It's okay not to have great plans for next year. It's okay not to step into January 1st with a list of resolutions that are going to change your life and the world. Can I offer you a suggestion for a simple goal that might not change the whole world but really will change your …
Defined by God, Not Humans
Yesterday on my Facebook page I shared a meme about the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional or abusive home on the ability to make decisions, even small ones. With that meme, I also shared two things I have personally used to overcome decision paralysis because it is a very common struggle for folks. …
Really, the Holidays are Happy
I have considered deleting my post from yesterday about the holidays and being tired of grief because, once again, I evidently didn't communicate well. The point that I was trying to make is that holidays for a lot of people come with all the emotions, and I know people who are stuck in their grief …
The Happier Holidays
Recently someone asked me if I am going to do my typical series of posts on grief and the holidays. No. I'm not. The truth is I am tired of grief. I have been posting about grief and the holidays and grief and birthdays and grief and anniversaries and grief in general for over 10 …
My Personal Strategies for Moving Through Sadness, Change, and Hard Life Places
Venus McFly fascinates me. My post today from my personal Facebook page... In the last few days I've had multiple conversations about depression and grief, and I thought I would share some of my "wisdom" here, too. First, when my husband moved out, mom died, husband died, stepfather blamed me for Mom's death, brother went …
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Being the Prevention for Suicide
We know the number one predictor of suicide is isolation. That could be physical isolation such as someone is alone most of the time due to physical limits, due to mental or emotional limits, or due to choice. It could be mental emotional isolation such as feeling like no one cares about you, that the …
Suicide: Why Don’t “Strong” People Talk?
In my previous post I made reference to strong people still facing incredibly hard things and needing a place to talk and be safe. In several conversations I have had over the years the topic of strong people not asking for help has been tossed in, and usually there is a tone of criticism and …