It's okay not to have great plans for next year. It's okay not to step into January 1st with a list of resolutions that are going to change your life and the world. Can I offer you a suggestion for a simple goal that might not change the whole world but really will change your …
Category: Creating Your Life
Defined by God, Not Humans
Yesterday on my Facebook page I shared a meme about the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional or abusive home on the ability to make decisions, even small ones. With that meme, I also shared two things I have personally used to overcome decision paralysis because it is a very common struggle for folks. …
Strategic Chaos
God will put us in blessed places.That doesn't mean they are always easy.Sometimes a blessed place is a hard place or a chaotic place.It also doesn't mean blessed places are for us to get something that feels good to us.It means there is something about us that needs to be put into that messy situation …
Really, the Holidays are Happy
I have considered deleting my post from yesterday about the holidays and being tired of grief because, once again, I evidently didn't communicate well. The point that I was trying to make is that holidays for a lot of people come with all the emotions, and I know people who are stuck in their grief …
The Happier Holidays
Recently someone asked me if I am going to do my typical series of posts on grief and the holidays. No. I'm not. The truth is I am tired of grief. I have been posting about grief and the holidays and grief and birthdays and grief and anniversaries and grief in general for over 10 …
Time
Lately, I have been thinking about time a lot. My brother died at the age of 57, which may sound old to some but others realize how very young that is. His birthday is next month, and I have been trying to plan for how to celebrate him, which really means I am trying to …
My Personal Strategies for Moving Through Sadness, Change, and Hard Life Places
Venus McFly fascinates me. My post today from my personal Facebook page... In the last few days I've had multiple conversations about depression and grief, and I thought I would share some of my "wisdom" here, too. First, when my husband moved out, mom died, husband died, stepfather blamed me for Mom's death, brother went …
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What is Your Name: Who Has the Right to Decide
Last week I finished the series on Family Predators and left Friday hanging with a post asking, "What is Your Name?" In that post I said, "Your name isn’t what people call you. Your name is what you live into. What is your name?" In that moment I was thinking of my name and the …
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What is Your Name?
That is what I heard in the early hours this morning when I rolled over in my bed. I had fallen asleep praying about what to write today since I finished the series on family predators, and I would really like to write about something uplifting and not so heavy. I awoke at one point …
Family Predators: What You Can Do, Part 8
Throughout my series on Family Predators, I've talked about family predator culture and its impact on one's personal life. In today's final post of the series, I want to look beyond survival and escaping to changing the story. In previous posts I said I stopped enabling family predator culture in my life by confronting my …