What is Your Name: Who Has the Right to Decide

Last week I finished the series on Family Predators and left Friday hanging with a post asking, "What is Your Name?" In that post I said, "Your name isn’t what people call you. Your name is what you live into. What is your name?" In that moment I was thinking of my name and the …

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Family Predators: What You Can Do, Part 8

Throughout my series on Family Predators, I've talked about family predator culture and its impact on one's personal life. In today's final post of the series, I want to look beyond survival and escaping to changing the story. In previous posts I said I stopped enabling family predator culture in my life by confronting my …

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Family Predators: How Did You Heal?, Series Part 5

I have considered not writing this because I don't want to oversimplify this subject. I have written from my experience, and I know others who have hell stories because of their family's predators--yes, sometimes more than one--and their family protecting those predators. I want to respect their stories and their healing journeys which are more …

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Family Predators: Why It is Hard to Just Walk Away, Series Part 4

I think it is really important to understand why it is so hard to walk away from families who protect predators and have a culture of abuse and perversion, not just to explain it to people who have never been in a family that protected predators but for those who have. I have spoken with …

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Stopping Family Predators, part 1

If you want to stop sexual abuse against children, start in your families. I am not talking about stranger danger. I mean start with the predators in your own family. You know the ones I'm talking about. The uncle no one wants to be around.The grandfather that girls try to avoid.The cousin that gives a lot …

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