Tomorrow is Valentine's, and wow, it can be brutal, especially if you are single. That feeling of not being chosen can shatter your already fragile sense of value. It can spur questions and emotions about not being enough and what is wrong with you and why can't you be like the girl who has all …
Category: Restoring Identity
Pleasing Words and Thoughts
A friend of mine and I share verses each morning and share our thoughts on them and how we see them apply to our lives. This morning he shared Psalm 19:14: Let the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be acceptable in they sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer. …
I Beginning Again…Again…Or Am I?
Do you ever feel that way? Like you are beginning again...for the kazillionth time? My mathematical brain describes it as: (Beginning again) to the Nth degree. I admit I tend to find that thought deflating and often defeating. I mean, I've tried this, whatever "this" is, before...several times...and failed. What in the world makes me …
Defined by God, Not Humans
Yesterday on my Facebook page I shared a meme about the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional or abusive home on the ability to make decisions, even small ones. With that meme, I also shared two things I have personally used to overcome decision paralysis because it is a very common struggle for folks. …
Strategic Chaos
God will put us in blessed places.That doesn't mean they are always easy.Sometimes a blessed place is a hard place or a chaotic place.It also doesn't mean blessed places are for us to get something that feels good to us.It means there is something about us that needs to be put into that messy situation …
My Personal Strategies for Moving Through Sadness, Change, and Hard Life Places
Venus McFly fascinates me. My post today from my personal Facebook page... In the last few days I've had multiple conversations about depression and grief, and I thought I would share some of my "wisdom" here, too. First, when my husband moved out, mom died, husband died, stepfather blamed me for Mom's death, brother went …
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What is Your Name: Who Has the Right to Decide
Last week I finished the series on Family Predators and left Friday hanging with a post asking, "What is Your Name?" In that post I said, "Your name isn’t what people call you. Your name is what you live into. What is your name?" In that moment I was thinking of my name and the …
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What is Your Name?
That is what I heard in the early hours this morning when I rolled over in my bed. I had fallen asleep praying about what to write today since I finished the series on family predators, and I would really like to write about something uplifting and not so heavy. I awoke at one point …
Family Predators: What You Can Do, Part 8
Throughout my series on Family Predators, I've talked about family predator culture and its impact on one's personal life. In today's final post of the series, I want to look beyond survival and escaping to changing the story. In previous posts I said I stopped enabling family predator culture in my life by confronting my …
Family Predators: Things I Want You to Know, Part 7
For more than a week I have been discussing the family predator culture, how it continues, how to heal, why people leave. I have shared part of my story and other people's stories, but today I want to talk about your story. If you are a victim of the predator victim culture, there are things …
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Jerri Kelley 